My Fears About College
What you should and shouldn't fear about attending college
So, about this time last year, I was absolutely freaking out about college. I mean, it was pretty understandable. I was going to a new state that I had only visited once, in a new climate, a new culture, and a new stage of life with no older siblings or friends to give me any advice! So for those of you headed out of state, 15 minutes from home, with no older mentor to give you advice, or the siblings who don't want to take advice from their family, I'm here to tell you about what I feared the most going into college and what actually happened once I got here.
Culture Shock
One thing you should know about my school is that there are people from ALL OVER THE WORLD! But because the students are mostly from Utah, Idaho, Arizona, Texas and California, I knew I was in for a culture shock. I was afraid my midwest slang would be unwelcome, or that I would be on the outside of a lot of inside jokes.
One thing I failed to recognize was that I wasn't going to be the only one around NOT from one of the main 5 states! There ended up being 1 girl from Ohio, 1 from Michigan, and like 5 from North Carolina on my floor alone! There was a bit of a culture shock with how sober the campus was and not hearing curse words or drugs and alcohol being a common occurrence, but I actually really enjoyed getting to know the norms of other states as well as finding the similarities between my slang and other slang. Once you really get to be around people a lot and make new friends, you can create your own slang.
Clothing
I searched just about every picture and every article on Pinterest about how to dress in Utah or how to dress in college. I thought maybe some of my more eccentric pieces would be seen as weird, or my preppy pieces to be seen as "stuck up". I feel like other schools seem to have a stereotype as to how everyone else dresses, or you at least know someone going to that university so you can social media stalk them to see what they wear. Well, unlike Miami University in Miami, OH where everyone dresses preppy, BYU did not have a single stereo type that I could find on the internet. I knew of the Honor Code and how that put a strict set of standards on what could and couldn't be worn on campus, the rest was left up to my judgement.
So what did I do? I took ALL my clothes. They barely fit in the closet, and even on my first day in Utah, I was stressed. I was comparing myself to everyone else I came in contact with, I freaked out about what to wear in my ID picture (even though you only see maybe 3 inches of fabric from my shirt) and I still couldn't pick up a particular trend that seemed to be "in". What I came to find out about BYU was that it was so diverse, THERE WAS NO TREND! Other than the BYU swag that everyone seemed to have in common on game day, there was no right thing to wear! (Trust me, there is a wrong and there are plenty of people dressing like they were homeschooled their whole life but that's to be expected among a select few in a Mormon community) In general, everyone just rocked a look that they stuck to and no one thought anything different about it. Hipster? Be a full out hipster. Thrift store eclectic modern chic? Awesome! More power to you! Preppy and southern? Flaunt those pearls! Just pick something you love and own it! It's amazing how people will appreciate your style the more you own it. Just wear what makes you happy!
Making Friends
Can I just say, I found the most amazing friends my freshman year, and I am so grateful for them. But instead of going on an on about how amazing they are and all the cool things we've done (maybe another blog post later?) I've been reflecting on how I met all these great people and what I did in order to make so many awesome friends.
Ok, so I might seem like a huge nerd, but the first thing I did was buy a package of Oreos and pretty much drag my roommate out of the room before dinner on move-in day and just knock on every door in the hallway and offer Oreos to everyone we met. Did I make any life-long friends that night? No. Get anyone to go with me to dinner? No, but the girls on my floor have told me that they remember when we stopped by on that first day and how they knew my name and face from that day on and also had a very positive opinion of me and my roommate. Later, when we were able to get to know one another better, we already had a pretty good foundation. Living in the dorms was my saving grace. I was able to have so many opportunities to get to know people on my floor and spend a lot of time with them without ever leaving my hallway.
Once I got to know a few pretty sweet girls, we made a group message to pretty much set up times to get meals together or invite people to go on adventures. Saying yes to going on spontaneous adventures were ways that I was really able to bond with my new found friends. Also extending the invitation myself, while it didn't always work out, was a good way to get over my social anxiety and feel more like I was at home with my old friends.
Roommate Problems
That's a Wrap!
So, those were my main concerns about leaving for college. (I know, academics should be #1, but sorry, that was my last worry) I hope this will be able to help some of you prospective freshmen. I know it's a little cliche, but honestly, all the advice you see on every Pinterest post is so true. Just do you and play it by ear. You'll be fine. I mean, most people make it out of college just fine. My parting words of wisdom would be this: Don't wait for things to happen to you. Be proactive and get stuff done. You may never get to know that really cute and nice guy in your band if you don't first open up and show an interest in him. Be yourself and everything will work out the way it is supposed to be. Ciao!